I am getting irritated, so am using blogging as an outlet, lol.
I already wrote a blog a long while ago, about understanding things from our perspectives. I think this needs an addendum.
I get so many messages on a daily basis (all providers do). That's great, but the truth is that for all those messages, it usually works out to about 10-15% that actually result in sessions (and therefore, business.) Most of the time, the main reason I ignore a message, is bad delivery. Messages like, "Hey", "Hi" or "How are you?" Nothing else, no introuduction, just some random "Hello", from a random number. Even worse are those that include pet names (baby, sweetie, sexy, etc.)
Because I get so many messages, I have to be discerning and try to decide which of them merits my time and energy to respond to. Remember, I don't get compensated for all the "admin" work involved with providing. It is why a lot of ladies hire assistants. It's a lot of work and takes up a fair amount of my time.
Let's add to that the time it takes me to update my site, post ads, get involved in forum discussions (also another way to "advertise"), clean and maintain my in-call (including laundry), and also handle my finances properly, and you are starting to understand how much time I "work" that I don't get compensated for.
So yes, I get testy when I receive annoying or time wasting messages. Here are my addendums to "Understanding Things from the Provider's Side & a Few Tips":
1. Read her ad/showcase/website for all relevant info before first contact. This includes things like her in-call/out-call area(s), hours of availability, rates & session offerings, preferred methods of contact, etc. When contacting for the first time, work within these parameters. Do not ask her for things she does not offer (I was recently asked if I would please consider doing an out-call even though I say I won't...guess what? NO. Leave me alone and stop wasting my time by asking); do not contact her at a crazy hour (I get calls/texts at all hours of the night); do not ask for any service that she has not indicated she offers.
2.Most reputable providers have reviews that offer greater insight into them/their sessions. Do some research, it will go a long way. You will be able to tell if she is the type of lady you would enjoy spending some time with and if her session is the type of experience you are after.
3. References/screening. This is a huge one. Most reputable providers require screening info, including references. I state this on my site/ads/showcase. Most ladies do as well. Yet, I get numerous upon numerous messages, "I don't have any screening info, willl you still see me? I promise I'm not a cop." First of all, LE is not my only concern, there are other reasons for references. Secondly, I have stated I will not book without references VERY CLEARLY, so no. Thirdly, by saying, "I'm not LE", you've just made me even more nervous than you would have before. Go away, leave me alone and don't contact me again.
4. Make your first contact message pleasant. I absolutely abhor "pet" names; like being called babe, baby, hunny, etc. I am not your gf and I am not a back alley hooker. Show me some respect. Construct a pleasant and simple introductory message, something like, "Hi Victoria, my name is such and such. I'd love to see you sometime soon. Here is my screening info." Already, I am 99.99% more likely to respond to a messaage such as that, than something like, "Hey babe." See the difference? You wouldn't think people would need to be taught things like this, but apparently they do.
5. Compensation should never be discussed other than at the time of booking. It is the ONLY time I will discuss such with a first time client. For example, "I have you booked for an Oasis session; just to confirm the rate is $120." And that's it. If you bring this up in person, chances are you will make me so nervous, I will ask you to leave. If you have to ask why, then you need to go educate yourself. I prefer to have it set down after the session, as he is on his way out. Not only is conversing of such pretty declassé, but it is also risky as hell. You should know what her rate is well before you arrive and have it ready to go. Some ladies prefer it at the beginning of the session, most will stipulate this somewhere in their advertising/site (again, why you need to READ all info beforehand.) I would suggest to always ascertain this info before the session, and operate accordingly to her preference.
6. In general, be a nice person. That shouldn't be too difficult. Just act like a normal, considerate and balanced human being, and chances are, your session will go swimmingly. Believe it or not, we women tend to respond better when treated like another fellow, normal human being.